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1. Take responsibility for your attitude
Singer Roberta Flack recalls, “My mother had only gone as far as the tenth grade, and my father had a third-grade education, but they both were very literate. They spoke well, and their values were high. They drummed into our heads that the situation you live in doesn’t have to live in you.” Our attitudes don’t come from our circumstances or personal history. Attitude does not come from outside ourselves. It comes from within.
The first rule of winning is don’t beat yourself. If your attitude isn’t as good as it could be, and you fail to take personal responsibility for it, then you are beating yourself. However, if you look in the mirror and can with honesty say, “The attitude I possess is my responsibility and no one else’s,” then you’re on your way.
2. Evaluate your present attitude
To improve your attitude, you need to assess where you’re starting from. This may take some time. Your goal isn’t to condemn yourself. It’s to see yourself clearly so that you can make positive changes to the way you think. Identify problem feelings about yourself. When do you feel most negative about yourself? Write down your answers. Identify problem feelings related to others. Attitude issues often relate to other people. What causes you the greatest problems when dealing with others? Once again, write down your answers. Identify problem thinking. We are the sum of our thoughts. What negative thoughts consistently control your mind? Write down your answers.
3. Develop the desire to change
The desire to change is the key to growth in all areas of life. Ironically, most people desire improvement, yet at the same time they resist change. The problem is that you cannot get one without having the other. Change is possible, but only if you want it badly enough. As Fred Smith observed, “You are the way you are because that’s the way you want to be. If you really wanted to be any different, you would be in the process of changing right now.” Of course, change is never that easy. It takes lots of time, tremendous amounts of energy, perseverance, and—of course—desire. That’s not a decision you make once and forget about. You need to cultivate that desire every day.
4. Change your attitude by changing your thoughts
Norman Vincent Peale, author of Power of the Plus Factor, wrote that he once came across a tattoo studio in the twisted streets of Kowloon in Hong Kong. In the window were drawings of the hundreds of choices of tattoos available from the artist who worked there. One in particular really struck him. It said, “Born to lose.” Peale was appalled that anyone might actually ask to have that permanently written on his skin. He went inside and asked the Chinese artist, “Does anyone really have that terrible phrase ‘Born to lose’ tattooed on his body?” “Yes, sometimes,” the artist answered. “But, I just can’t believe anyone in his right mind would do that.” The artist tapped his forehead, and in broken English said, “Before tattoo on body, tattoo on mind.”
Major premise: We can control our thoughts.
Minor premise: Our feelings come from our thoughts.
Therefore: We can control our feelings by changing the way we think.
That’s why I believe the saying, “You are not what you think you are, but what you think… you are.”
Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.
Most of the great work in this world was done by men and women who didn’t believe that what they were doing was impossible. Talent is certainly beneficial, but only the right attitude can release it to reach its potential.
5. Develop good habits
Much of what we do every day comes from habitual behaviors. Over the course of time, we have developed a way of approaching life. We treat people a particular way. If we desire to get different results out of life, then it’s not enough to change only our thinking. We also need to change our habits. Why? Because if we don’t we will revert back to our old thinking. In fact, some people recommend changing behavior first. Psychiatrist William Glasser says, “If you want to change attitudes, start with a change in behavior. In other words, begin to act the part, as well as you can, of the person you would rather be, the person you most want to become. Gradually, the old, fearful person will fade away.” Fortunately, habits are not instincts. They are actions or reactions that we have acquired over time. If you can pinpoint the original cause in your thinking that prompts a bad habit, you can change it.
6. Manage your attitude daily
One of the most significant discoveries of my life was realizing that we often place too much emphasis on making decisions and too little on managing the decisions we’ve already made. Today Matters. Maintaining the right attitude is easier than regaining the right attitude. A Chinese proverb I came across gives insight: “Assume a cheerfulness you do not feel, and shortly you feel the cheerfulness you assumed.” Elbert Hubbard says, “Be pleasant until 10 a.m. and the rest of the day will take care of itself.”
When you wake up in the morning and stumble into the bathroom to take that morning pee your body has been waiting to get rid of all night, you pass the mirror. There is not one person in the world that does not look in that mirror each and every morning. When you look in that mirror, who do you see? Your mother? Your father? Your brother or sister? No! You see yourself. When you look in that mirror, you smile and say “What’s up” because you know that today is going to be a good day. God, or whoever you believe in, has granted you another day of the greatest gift on Earth, life! Life is way too short, so we must make the most of it. By “making the most” out of life, it is not referring to going out and partying every night with your friends and possibly doing things against the law. Rather, it is referring to the fact that each and every day, you have an opportunity to achieve something great. That great something can be anything from getting an “A” on a math test, to winning a national wrestling championship, but the only thing that matters is that when you look at yourself in the mirror again at the end of the day, before you go to bed, you are comfortable with what you are looking at. You want to know that you made the most out of your day because our days are limited and we will do anything in our power to make the most of the time we are given on this Earth.
Making the most of life also refers to your feeling and emotions. A wise man once told me that the worst emotion that anyone can ever live with is regret. One second you spend regretting or dwelling something is one less second you could have spent being happy and joyful about life. Let’s put this in perspective. Say you spend an average of 30 minutes total everyday regretting decisions you have made that day. By the end of the week, you have spent two and half hours regretting things in your life that you have done. Those two and a half hours could have been spent being thankful that you are standing here today. Life is too short and everything happens for a reason, which is why we must accept things for what they are and continue to enjoy life. There is no such thing as a mistake; rather it is a learning experience in life and an opportunity for some to better themselves as a person. Making the most of an opportunity can be something as small as saying “hello” to someone that you have always wanted to talk to. Now that you have finally spoken to that person, there is not a feeling of regret because you have made the most of that opportunity. Something that is tough for people to understand is that some things in life only happen once and that opportunity is only put on the table that one time! So you must take advantage of that opportunity and make the most of it. That opportunity may never present itself again in the short lifetime that everyone lives. So what are you going to do, fold up your tent and regret not taking advantage of the opportunity, or make the most of what you are being presented with? I cannot make a decision for anyone else in this world but myself, and that will never change. It is your choice to make the most of life because it is too short to have regrets. I know that when I look in the mirror at the end of the day, I see myself. Not my brother, friends, father, uncle, or grandfather, I see myself. I know that I am comfortable with what I see in the mirror each and every day. Although I am never satisfied, because there is always room for improvement, I am comfortable with what I see. I don’t think about what you, you, or even you think about me, because at the end of the day, I don’t see you, you, or you. I see myself, and I know that I am happy with what I have done today. I try to be the change I want to see in the world. The same thing goes with everyone here, when you look in that mirror, you only see yourself and no one else. You have to know that you made the most of your day and you lived it without regrets. It doesn’t matter what anyone else on this planet thinks about you as long as you are comfortable with what you are looking at in the mirror. If you are not happy with what you see, you know that you must change something the next day. You know that you have to take advantage of each and every opportunity given to you that day. You know that you have to make the most of life because “you could be here one day and gone any minute, life is too short” (Meek Mill).
article contributed by: Justin Staudenmayer, 11th grade student-athlete, Plymouth Whitemarsh High School
At 211º water is hot. At 212º, it boils. And with boiling water, comes steam. And steam can power a locomotive. It’s that ONE Extra Degree that makes all the difference. This simple analogy reflects the ultimate definition of excellence. Because it’s the one extra degree of effort, in education, sports, business, family, or life that can separate the good from the GREAT!.
the TOuGH gets GOiNG !
A perspective altering clip… EXTREMELY POWERFUL ! OuR TEAM watches this at the beginning and end of EVERY day.
The life you live may be defined by the OPPORTUNiTIES you capitalize on… Focus on your STRENGHTS, and allow your weaknesses to motivate you to work HARDER !
MAXiMiZE your RESOURCES and UTiLiZE your POTENTiAL !
ADVERSiTY is a part of life, but no matter how hard you get knocked down, or how difficult LiFE gets, never lose sight of the LiGHT at the end of your personal tunnel !
GET uP and get back in the FiGHT ! Your TEAM needs YOu …
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place… and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there… PERMANENTLY, if you let it. You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as LiFE ! But it ain’t about how hard you hit… It’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving FORWARD… how much you can take, and keep moving FORWARD ! That´s how winning is DONE ! Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that!” (Rocky Balboa)
“Your story is where you take it to, not where you start.”―Tony Robbins
Let’s be honest and get a few things out on the table:
Your starting point does not define you.
Your starting point is a neutral data point.
What matters is where you want to go rather than where you are right now.
Your starting place is just that—where you start. Nothing more and nothing less. It’s neutral.
Jeff Bezos started Amazon in a garage. Steve Jobs started Apple in a garage. Many people think a garage is a pretty terrible place to start a business. However, both visionaries built incredibly successful companies that have since changed the world and our view of what’s possible.
Iyanla Vanzant, an author and self-help guru, went through a divorce, lost her daughter to cancer, and lost her home. She is now a NY Times bestselling author and will soon have a self-empowerment show on Oprah’s network (OWN). Although, we tend to classify our starting place in an extreme way, it’s just a starting place. No need to be dramatic.
“We can think, speak, and bring the best possible outcome into existence by focusing on where we are going, not on where we think we are.”—Iyanla Vanzant
Do yourself and everyone around you a favor, please stop being so tough on yourself because your starting place is difficult.
Your starting place may be that you don’t have enough money, education, contacts, or knowledge to start your business. Or, your starting place could be that you have all the money in the world and a successful business but you’re not fulfilled.
I had a solid starting place when I was in New York City working on Wall Street for a top-tier investment bank, making good money, living in a nice apartment, and having a great lifestyle. Most people would not have given up the lifestyle I had, but it wasn’t what I wanted so I had to start again. Later, when I wrote my first book, Living in Your Top 1%, I started from scratch—no prior writing experience, no contacts in the business, and no knowledge of the industry. It’s amazing what you can learn when you really want something and are determined to make it happen.
Your starting place is irrelevant. Yes, I know this sounds crazy.
What matters is your clarity, choices, and commitment to take action and create what you want.
TOP 1% BOTTOM LINE: It’s not about where you start but rather where you want to go. Big difference. People are frustrated by what they have AND don’t have. Your starting place is a point of reference when you look back to see how far you’ve come.
“The potential of an average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good.”―Brian Tracy
It is generally believed that the average person uses only about ten percent of their potential. That is to say that the average person could be ten times more productive and successful than they currently are. Studies done at Stanford University Brain Institute are even less flattering. They claim that the average person only uses about two percent of their full potential. No matter which figure you agree with, it is clear that we perform far below what we are capable of.
According to Abraham Maslow we are consistently “selling ourselves short.” We concoct all kinds of reasons to rationalize and justify our poor performance and lack of success, ignoring the fact that we all have the ability to develop far beyond anything we have achieved so far.
Clarify Your Vision
Start developing a long-term vision of yourself. Jump forward five or ten years into the future and see yourself fully developed in every important area of your life. What would it look like? To what level would you have developed your skills and abilities in your chosen field? What kind of success and recognition would you be enjoying because of the excellent work you do? How would you feel about yourself once you are one of the most recognized people within your area of expertise?
Once you have crafted your vision, start shaping it into specific, actionable goals. Write down at least ten goals you would like to achieve personally and professionally in the area of personal development. From that list, determine the one goal that would make the biggest impact on your life and start working out a schedule, with firm timelines and benchmarks for achieving it. Don’t delay. Start working on your plan immediately and ensure that you have tangible ways to measure your progress toward your goal of self-improvement. Perhaps the measurement is in terms of the number of books you read per month, or even the number of appointments or sales you’ve made because of your increasing skill set.
Develop Winning Habits
Without question, the habits that you have adopted in the past are largely responsible for your skill set, level of performance, and ultimately the success that you enjoy today. To be all that you can be, you must develop new winning habits. Perhaps the single most important habit you can develop is self-discipline, which has been described as the “ability to make yourself do what you should do when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.”
Shun the tendency to think that others are more capable than you. Remember that what others have done, within reason, you can do too. Conversely, resist the temptation to not play full out because you are afraid to show up others. Author and lecturer Marianne Williamson reminds us that,
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine.”
article written by: DEVON HARRIS of positivelypositive.com
Russell Conwell helped to transform a small Philadelphia night school in a church basement into Temple University. He did it by retelling a story that was told to him while in a camel caravan in Mesopotamia. It was a story about Al Hafed, a very wealthy farmer in ancient Persia. Al Hafed was living his dream life until, one day, a Buddhist priest visited him, and during their conversation told him how the world was formed. The old priest also told Al Hafed about diamonds, and that if he had a handful of diamonds he could purchase a whole country. With a mine of diamonds, through the influence of their great wealth, he could easily place his children upon thrones.
That night Al Hafed went to bed a poor man—not that he had lost anything. He was poor because he was discontented, and discontented because he thought he was poor. After a sleepless night, he arose early the next morning and told the priest of his desire to be immensely rich. After a lengthy conversation, the priest told him that he would find diamonds in a river that runs over white sand between high mountains. Al Hafed sold his farm, collected his money, left his family in the charge of a neighbor, and began his search for diamonds.
After years of exhaustive search throughout Palestine and across Europe, penniless, ragged, and wretched, he threw himself into the incoming tide off the coast of Spain never to rise again. In the meantime, back at the farm, Al Hafed’s successor, while giving his camel a drink from the stream that ran through the property, found a black stone with an eye of light that reflected all the colors of the rainbow. The stone turned out to be a diamond. And so were discovered the diamond mines of Golconda, the most magnificent diamond mines in the history of mankind. Had Al Hafed simply remained at home in his own garden, he would have had “acres of diamonds.” Every shovelful of that old farm has since revealed the gems which have decorated the crowns of monarchs.
The most amazing and tragic element of this story is that we have so many modern-day Al Hafeds, wandering aimlessly, searching for their acres of diamond everywhere—except in the backyard of their own mind.
Change your perspective
One of the valuable lessons taught by this incredible story is one of perspective. How do you see yourself? The gem stones are the attitudes you develop over time as a result of seeing YOUR world more clearly. When you see yourself more clearly, you see yourself as someone who is valuable and has limitless potential. This leads to high self-esteem and high expectations, which are the cornerstones for high achievement. This perspective also motivates and compels you to act with a clearly defined purpose.
Opportunities are dressed in work clothes
Your greatest opportunities lie under your own feet. They lie in your intellect, your talent and abilities, your education and experience, as well as with your family members, friends, and business contacts. The challenge is that, in the rough, a diamond does not look like a diamond. It looks like a black, rough piece of rock, and must be cut, shaped, and polished repeatedly before it glistens like the valuable stone that it is. The Al Hafeds of today are waiting around for their opportunities to turn up. They are looking for the easy way—the six numbers in the lotto or an inheritance from a long-lost relative. They fail to realize that their acres of diamonds represent an opportunity for them to learn and work hard for a long period of time, honing and developing their skills so that they can build a career or business and eventually have everything they want.
Your area of excellence
Each and every one of us has the ability to be excellent at something. What can you be excellent at? It is your responsibility to find it. You may have a knack for singing. Perhaps it’s teaching or sports. Whatever it is, know that ability is latent until it’s developed. You may have all the potential in the world, but the marketplace will only pay your performance, not your potential. J.K. Rowlings is now the richest woman in the UK—in 1990 she was on welfare. Her latent talent was in writing, and through her writing she began to mine the nuggets of diamonds that were abundant in her mind. Harry Potter became her Golconda mines. Remember, your diamonds are inside you waiting to be mined, cut and polished.
article written by: DEVON HARRIS of positivelypositive.com
Some time ago I was on my way to Salt Lake City. While thumbing through the in-flight magazine I saw an ad for the Special Olympics. In the middle of the page was the picture of an athlete going over the bar in the high jump. Above the photo the caption read, “There were a few basic steps I had to take to learn the high jump… like believing I could. IT’S ALL ABOUT ATTITUDE.”
When I read it, I smiled to myself because I knew how true the statement was. Attitude is, beyond question, an integral part of any success journey.
The successful ones have a “can-do attitude.” They do whatever it takes to win (providing it is moral, legal and ethical). One of the things I enjoy most about the Olympics is to hear all the human-interest stories of athletes from all over the world. The tremendous obstacles that many of them had to overcome in their personal lives is admirable by any standard. But to do that and get to the Olympic Games is, in many cases, nothing short of miraculous. Along the way they adopted an attitude of “how I can” instead of “why I can’t,” and they were able to handsomely reap the rewards of that attitude. As the ad said, “It’s all about attitude.” The current that determines your dreams and shapes your life flows from the attitude you nurture every day.
As you go through life, you are going to encounter all kinds of obstacles—dozens of reasons why the goal you are pursuing could never be achieved or should not be pursued. Many of these will present themselves as concrete facts.
Let me share some facts with you:
Jamaica, being only 18 degrees North of the Equator, is always hot. That means the only place we ever see ice is in the tall glasses of lemonade we drink to keep ourselves cool. In the 1988 Winter Olympics, during the week of the four-man bobsled event, all the major teams were adding the finishing touches to their preparations and completing final selection of the two teams that would race on the weekend, and we were still trying to figure out who would ride in the second, third, and fourth spots on the sled. We already knew who the driver was. These facts would suggest that there was a greater opportunity for Jamaica to have a White Christmas than for its bobsled team to have any success at the Winter Olympics. However, by the end of the week, we had the seventh fastest start time. In 1994, our time finished in 14th place, ahead of the US in 15th, and was ranked the 8th nation overall. In the Salt Lake Games we set a new start record in the two-man event. The facts may be daunting but as that great Jamaican philosopher, Bob Marley, said “it’s a small axe that takes down a big tree.” When you focus on the solutions with a positive mental attitude, you end up with an opportunity to create a new set of facts that are far more powerful and dynamic.
It is very easy to believe that your attitude is affected by what others say or do, or even by what is happening around you. The truth is, it is what you say to yourself that has the greatest impact on how you approach the challenges in your life. Back in 1988, when many were calling us a media stunt we were calling ourselves the “Ragamuffins”. When asked what it meant we were always happy to divulge that it denoted a “can-do attitude” because we knew that we were also reaffirming that attitude to ourselves.
Consider the following words from Chuck Swindoll:
“Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. The remarkable thing is that we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one thing we have—and that is our attitude. Life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
“No steam or gas drives anything until it is confined. No Niagara is ever turned into light and power until it is tunneled. No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated and disciplined.” ~Harry E. Fosdick
Self-discipline and self-motivation are joined at the hip. Why is that? When you practice self-discipline you feel like you are in control of your life. You feel content and motivated because you’re moving toward your goals.
Brian Tracy is one of America’s leading authors on the development of human potential. He said this…”If I had to pick the #1 key to success, it would be…self-discipline. It is the difference in winning or losing; between greatness and mediocrity.”
Today, we would like to share Brian’s introduction in The Power of Discipline…7 Ways It Can Change Your Life. Enjoy!
|An excerpt from
The Power of Discipline
by Brian Tracy
|Why are some people more successful than others? Why do some people make more money, live happier lives and accomplish much more in the same number of years than the great majority?I started out in life with few advantages. I did not graduate from high school. I worked at menial jobs. I had limited education, limited skills and a limited future.|
And then I began asking, “Why are some people more successful than others?” This question changed my life.
Over the years, I have read thousands of books and articles on the subjects of success and achievement. It seems that the reasons for these accomplishments have been discussed and written about for more than two thousand years, in every conceivable way. One quality that most philosophers, teachers and experts agree on is the importance of self-discipline. As Al Tomsik summarized it years ago, “Success is tons of discipline.”
Some years ago, I attended a conference in Washington. It was the lunch break and I was eating at a nearby food fair. The area was crowded and I sat down at the last open table by myself, even though it was a table for four.
A few minutes later, an older gentleman and a younger woman who was his assistant came along carrying trays of food, obviously looking for a place to sit.
With plenty of room at my table, I immediately arose and invited the older gentleman to join me. He was hesitant, but I insisted. Finally, thanking me as he sat down, we began to chat over lunch.
It turned out that his name was Kop Kopmeyer. As it happened, I immediately knew who he was. He was a legend in the field of success and achievement. Kop Kopmeyer had written four large books, each of which contained 250 success principles that he had derived from more than fifty years of research and study. I had read all four books from cover to cover, more than once.
After we had chatted for awhile, I asked him the question that many people in this situation would ask, “Of all the one thousand success principles that you have discovered, which do you think is the most important?”
He smiled at me with a twinkle in his eye, as if he had been asked this question many times, and replied, without hesitating, “The most important success principle of all was stated by Thomas Huxley many years ago. He said, ‘Do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.’”
He went on to say, “There are 999 other success principles that I have found in my reading and experience, but without self-discipline, none of them work.”
Self-discipline is the key to personal greatness. It is the magic quality that opens all doors for you, and makes everything else possible. With self-discipline, the average person can rise as far and as fast as his talents and intelligence can take him. But without self-discipline, a person with every blessing of background, education and opportunity will seldom rise above mediocrity.
There’s an old saying that says…”If the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is eat a live frog, then nothing worse can happen for the rest of the day!” Brian Tracy says that your “frog” should be the most difficult item on your things to do list, the one where you’re most likely to procrastinate; because, if you eat that first, it’ll give you energy and momentum for the rest of the day. But, if you don’t…and let him sit there on the plate and stare at you while you do a hundred unimportant things, it can drain your energy and you won’t even know it.
“Procrastination is attitude’s natural assassin. There is nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task.”
William James, one of the founders of modern psychology, spoke those words. And how true they are!
Sometimes I don’t know if I should laugh, scream, cry, or flip out about the ups and the downs, the good and the bad of life. Sometimes it’s all so BIG.
I’m one of the many who have a complicated story. If you were to ask me to write out a list of the wildly bad stuff, it runs pretty intense. Here you go: Scary childhood, anorexia, drug abuse, and disfiguring acne—I’m talking over one hundred pustules on my face—all before I was twenty. Add to this one rocky, suicidal year on drugs for manic depression and anxiety; a near nervous breakdown at twenty-four; devastating dysentery at thirty-one; post-traumatic stress disorder from the dysentery—oh, and chronic anxiety to boot!
Needless to say, I have spent a whole lot of my adult years working through all these events, and still sometimes work with them. What’s been amazing, and I mean mind-blowing, about everything I’ve been through, is not only has the tough stuff been punctuated by insanely sweet and terrific stuff, but I now have an upbeat, joyful perspective—and a profound willingness to accept my life as miraculous.
Sure, I’ve cycled through all kinds of attitudes about my story, from feeling like a beaten-down victim, to seeing it all as really terrible luck, to thinking I was being punished for being “inherently flawed,” as my abusive mother used to call me.
As I grew, studied, and took interest in understanding my life, I eventually came to see it as the universe giving me what I could handle. I clung to this as the rationale for all my pain, and to puff myself up when I got envious of other women’s seemingly easier lives.
Yet the more I meditated, wrote, and spoke, this idea fell away too. I slowly began to see and relate to my anger, despair, fear, and sadness as a brilliant opportunity to connect with, and applaud the wonder of, this astounding life. I saw these episodes, and the feelings attached to them, as necessary catalysts of the triumphant rally for my own strength, confidence, overflowing love, and for opening me up to the divine. I also became deeply dedicated to the support and encouragement of others going through their stuff.
For those of you feeling burdened, victimized, afflicted, and/or envious of another person’s life because bad stuff is happening in yours, here are the five steps that have been pivotal for me in spinning the traumatic and ugly into emotional-energetic gold:
1. APPRECIATE what is going well in your life. Be grateful for your gifts, whatever they may be, and find stability here. Instead of calling everything awful, pay attention and seek out and honor the fortunate things too, however hidden they are by your personal mess.
2. RELEASE the tough stuff however you can. Cry it out, talk it out, sweat it out, shout it out, either solo or with a willing group or individual, just don’t hurt yourself or anyone else as you let it go. Finding an outlet is vital when it comes to working with pain. You’ll be surprised at how quickly the bawling and hurting become tears of relief, and sometimes even laughter.
3. LEARN by really looking without judgment at how you are in the middle of your struggles. It requires insane amounts of bravery to do this. You literally reclaim your power by committing to face yourself and your life story, and in seeing the truth of what is. Only by ignoring, resisting, or refusing to look, is the possibility of transformation lost.
4. PERCEIVE differently what you see now from how you’ve been programmed to see it up until now. With a fresh and open perspective, bad luck can quite wonderfully turn out to be good luck. Things that you’ve thought of as random acts of cruelty and doom become blessed and crucial events, utterly essential to your growth.
5. CELEBRATE the gut-it-out hard parts as supportive of the whole beautiful, mystifying journey. Your troubles don’t make you worse off. They make you more profoundly you, richer in character, wiser, and that much more interesting. This last step is about saying, “This is it! This is who I am! I am choosing to live in the light. I am choosing to celebrate the darkness as a vehicle into my bright and exciting future.”
When we change our tune and take ownership of our path, we welcome in the fantastic. By working with and toasting what we’ve got (and have been given) we set ourselves up not only to survive—but to THRIVE. The habitual cry about your or my messed up life simply disappears. Instead, we become our own most spirited cheerleaders, and victory fills the air.
article written by: MAGGIE LYON of positivelypositive.com
by: DEVON HARRIS
Napoleon Hill said, “Cherish your visions and dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”
As human beings, you and I have a unique ability that separates us from every other creature in the animal kingdom. It’s the ability to see in our minds eye. Our ability to visualize is probably the greatest faculty we possess. Every improvement you’ll experience in your life starts with an improvement in your mental pictures.
You must “sees it before you seize it”. Forgive the Ebonics. In plain English it means that the picture you create in your mind’s eye turns into the reality you hold in your hand. As Brian Tracy so aptly stated, “Visualization activates the law of attraction and the law of correspondence.” This underscores the importance of not allowing your visualizations to be a random, haphazard activity but rather a deliberate proactive process. My goal in this lesson is to show you how this powerful process can help you become the person you wish to become and to have and achieve the things you want.
See yourself as successful
Human beings have between twenty thousand and sixty thousand thoughts daily, most of which are repeated day after day. It is these thoughts, all imprinted on the subconscious mind and creating the mental images that we are continually moving towards that determine whether we are successful or miring in a pool of mediocrity. Our subconscious mind is a servant. It simply follows the instructions, creating the pictures that we have given it through our thoughts. Because it does not know the difference between a real or imagined event, through repeated visualization we can trick the mind into believing that a desired outcome has already occurred. Once your mind believes this to be true it adjusts your thoughts and behaviors to be consistent with that of your visualizations.
See yourself as successful. The successful ones among us are those who, in ADVANCE, visualized the kind of success they wanted to enjoy. The champion athlete visualizes him or herself performing at their best. Oftentimes they recall an experience of when they were at their absolute best and project it into the future to their next competitive event. The successful salesperson does the same thing, visualizing herself closing the sale smoothly and effortlessly. The not so successful also use visualization but usually to their detriment. They reflect on instances when they failed and project worry, anxiety and failure to their experience. Of course they are disappointed when they fail not realizing that by simply changing their mental images they would have changed their results.
Develop the skill
Visualization is a skill that can be learnt and developed. When visualizing there are two different points of view or perspectives you can take. The first is the disassociated view. From this perspective you are watching yourself through the eyes of a spectator. Imagine that you are in the gymnasium sitting in the stands watching yourself in action on the court. That is the view you would get when visualizing your goal from that perspective.
The second perspective is the associated view. Here you are seeing the game from the perspective of someone who is fully participating in it and as a result you are enjoying more of the relevant sensation — the feeling of the ball in your hand, sweat dripping down your face, your body bouncing off other players and the squeaking of sneakers on the gym floor. This is by far more powerful because it involves more emotions and engages your subconscious mind more directly.
Keys to successful visualization
Make sure you are totally relaxed. Worry, tension and anxiety will hinder your ability to concentrate. Find a quiet place and do some deep breathing exercises for a few minutes and just let the tension drain from your body.
They say repetition is the mother of success. There are two distinct advantages to practicing your visualization frequently. The first is that you simply get better at it. The second and most important advantage is that it influences the way you think and thus causes you to engage in activities that will lead to the accomplishment of your goals.
The more clearly you are able to see your goals; the faster you will be able to achieve them. Always work hard at adding as much vivid details as possible to your visualization. It is the small details that make your mental pictures seem authentic.
Whenever you visualize, work really hard at creating the exact feelings and emotions you would experience upon the accomplishment of your goals. The more intense these felling and emotions are the faster these mental instructions will be implanted in your subconscious mind.
From personal experience I know that the more you practice visualization the more you increase your ability to concentrate. With practice you will be able to hold the images in your mind for longer periods. The longer you hold a clear vivid picture in your mind the quicker your goals are likely to appear.
I know you have dreams and desires. I also know that you have the ability to make them come true. I encourage you to practice the techniques you have learned here. At first you might find it challenging or it may just feel funny. That’s OK. That’s normal. Just stick with it. Remember the power lies in you.
Keep on Pushing!
As an original member of the 1988 Jamaican bobsled team and captain of the 1992 and 1998 teams; 3-time Olympian, Devon Harris achieved his grand dream – his current dream is to inspire others to achieve theirs. Tapping the same energy, determination and skills that enabled him to bobsled with the best in the world, Devon, as a motivational speaker is now sparking audiences of all ages to dream big and take their “game” to the next level.
By Zig Ziglar
Over the years I have experienced various obstacles to my workout routine. I
recall once when I was in Tampa, Florida, for a seminar. At seven o’clock I
stepped out of my hotel to do my walking but, unfortunately, it was raining.
The good news is that there was a parking garage attached to the hotel, so I
headed there to take my walk. Needless to say, I prefer to walk outdoors where
I can see things as I go, but walking in a covered garage beats getting wet, and
certainly beats not walking at all. I had been enjoying my walk and planning my
talk for about 25 minutes when I suddenly noticed that the rain had stopped. I
hurried outside to take advantage of that window of opportunity and had made it
about a block and a half when the rain returned. I headed back to the covered
garage and continued my walk–and the planning of my talk.
As I reflect on my activity that morning, I had no idea how long it would
continue to rain or how long the break in the rain would last. However, I do
believe that too many people wait for everything to be “just right” before they
do anything, and they often miss out on life’s opportunities.
The second little lesson I learned on that walk is that in a parking garage
you follow the incline to the top. It’s more difficult to walk up but to
develop endurance you’ve got to go uphill. To go up in the business world or,
for that matter, in the academic or political world, you frequently have to
experience difficulty as you go. Without the difficulty you never develop the
mental sharpness and physical strength which are necessary to succeed.
Somebody once said that the only way to the mountaintop is through the
valley. When you encounter those “mountains,” just remember that the climbing
will enable you to climb the next one higher and faster, which ultimately means
I will SEE YOU AT THE TOP!
BJ Gallagher’s inspirational book for Simple Truths: The Best Way Out is Always Through shows us that in times of adversity, it’s perseverance that is the key to success. Progress is evolutionary not revolutionary and most days we measure our progress in inches not miles. The Best Way Out is Always Through provides the inspiration for you to get through the tough times by staying the course. Perseverance will help you find your own inner strength to keep on keeping on, no matter what challenges life brings. You, too, can achieve extraordinary success simply by sticking with it – The Best Way Out is Always Through.
The Power of Perseverance! We all have doubts, fears and disappointments in our lives. During those times, we look for shots of inspiration and encouragement to get us through. That’s what this little book is all about!
BJ Gallagher has written 27 inspirational books and we think this one will become one of your favorites. It is about the power of perseverance to pull you through tough times. The stories, quotes, photography and BJ’s “special brand of poetry” will light your inner fire and keep you moving forward during tough times.
Please enjoy one of the eight original poems featured in this book by BJ Gallagher
When you believe in yourself, in your personal potential, in your own future,
you have no choice – surrender is not an option. There’s nothing to do but continue.
Sometimes you want to give up, but you can’t – something deep inside you won’t let you.
No white flags, no bailing out, no throwing in the towel for you.
You have to keep going; you must carry on; you just take the next step…and the next…and the next…
This book has 9 inspirational stories, 8 poems and numerous quotes. It is a wonderful book for anyone you know who is experiencing a difficult time in their life.
*article courtesy of AllProDad.com
“Bear Bryant, Perseverance and Quitting”
Here is legendary Coach Bear Bryant’s speech to his Alabama football team before a 1974 game:
“Most of you will live another fifty years or more. I hope it’s seventy, but if it’s fifty that’s still a good life, and what happens today you’ll have to live with the rest of the way. You can’t get it back if you don’t win. It’s sixty minutes and over. The losers are the ones who say, ‘Oh I wish I could play it again.’ You can’t play it again…
Well, you’re not really going to have to play sixty minutes. None of you. The longest play in a game is six and a half seconds. The shortest play is less than two seconds. That’s barely a wink of the eye. You’ll average five seconds a play. Five seconds of total effort, going all out, giving a hundred percent. You oughta be able to hold your hand in a fire that long…”
Bear Bryant was tremendous in motivating his players to persevere, no matter how hard it got. And as a general rule, it’s a good one. But there are circumstances that dictate that our children should walk away from something they are doing. Here are 10 things to consider before letting your children quit. Sometimes it’s more art than science on when you make your kids grit it out vs. when you let them throw in the towel, but it’s well worth thinking through beforehand as best as you can.
10 Things to Consider Before You Let Your Children Quit
Life is difficult. It’s a given! We’re born, we open our eyes, dad misinterprets our cry, mom puts the diaper on too tight, someone else drops our pacifier – and it begins.
But this is how life works. Challenge is built into the equation; learning requires patience; problem solving is a key element to fulfillment; obstacles come our way every day. World leader Winston Churchill gave a speech at his old school in the darkest days of WW2; he’d had a miserable time there and was considered a failure. He walked to the podium and surveyed the crowd of awe-struck students. “This is the lesson,” he said. “Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small – never give in, except to convictions of honor and good sense….”
But we also live in this world of entitlement: “’I deserve this.” “I want mine now!” “Children should have everything they want.” “It’s my responsibility to make my kids happy.” “Satisfy me now!”
But, and experience proves this every time, pretty much everything worthwhile comes at the price of investment. It’s not just that the reward is sweeter after the long haul. It turns out that the process of getting from A to B is intrinsically worthwhile – regardless of the payoff at the end. The key to success is perseverance.
However, there are times we and our children should quit something. We do the math and realize the best option is to do something else. But what are the guidelines? Here are 10 worth thinking about:
- “Quitter” is a tough label to shake. Breaking a promise is a big deal; failing to follow through should never be brushed off. Quitting is never small potatoes.
- Tenacity is a strong word for life: Thomas Edison famously “failed” 10,000 times on his way to inventing the light bulb. What if he had simply quit along the way?
- This is a big life-lesson opportunity. If children don’t learn to follow through now, when they have our support, how will they become equipped to follow through as adults, when they must rely on what we taught them?
- Make sure we understand the entire story! It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about network news, witnesses to an accident, or kids – the principle’s the same: one source of information is never enough.
- Trust takes a long line of completions to build, but it only takes one broken promise to dismantle.
- Quitting on impulse is never the right choice. Have your child outline the problem and then explain exactly why they believe quitting is their #1 option.
- Kids usually quit for the wrong reason. Try to get at the bottom of why your kids want to quit. “It’s not fun anymore” may be code for “kids make fun of me.”
- Challenging experiences invariably build character; the easy way out typically builds something else. Want your children to be diamonds? The only way is to have them take the pressure sometimes.
- The more often children quit before completing a task, the less likely they are to finish the next one. Quitting, like perseverance, can quickly form a habit. Challenge your children not to give up too easily.
Sometimes your child needs to make a tough choice and walk away. Once in a while, quitting is simply the right thing to do. Maybe the coach is bad news; maybe your child really is overcommitted; maybe there are principles of character he or she cannot compromise. If this is the case, your child needs your support and your help to make a gracious exit.